I have often felt like one “tossed back and forth by the waves, and blown here and there by every wind of teaching and by the cunning and craftiness of people in their deceitful scheming,” - Eph 4:14. I felt lost, confused, stood for everything, and fell for everything. I was also young and immature. However, I truly felt more lost than most. Dazed and confused I like to say. I felt like I could hardly make a decision, and those I did make failed me miserably. I did not know where I was going. I started many things and did not finish them. I laughed one day and cried the next. Any argument could sway me. I did not have many friends. My goals and dreams changed like the seasons. I was truly a rudderless ship.
If you do not stand for something, you will fall for anything.
It is so important for us as women, men, wives, husbands, mothers, fathers, friends, to know who we are and what we stand for. Know thyself.
Over time, I have finally made some concrete decisions about things I firmly believe in. All kinds of things regarding my faith, marriage, parenthood, friendship, and life in general. I truly think that if what you believe about yourself, the world, and life changes constantly, your ship is going to wander around aimlessly.
Grab a pen and paper and start making some decisions about your life. Things you believe in and stand firm on. Sure, your hair color is going to change, and Brad Pitt is so last season, but that is not what I am talking about. I am talking about core things, things of the heart and soul. Truly nonnegotiable beliefs.
Here are some of my more serious ones:
I believe in God the Father and that He created all things. He is the Master of my ship.
I believe in Jesus Christ whom died on the cross and rose from the grave.
I believe in the Holy Spirit.
I believe in the Bible and every word it says.
I believe God has a perfect plan for my life.
I will treat all life with respect.
I will be truthful and honest in all things.
I will not cheat on my husband.
My priorities are God, marriage, children, friends, life. In that order.
I will love my children unconditionally.
And some of my not so serious ones:
Life will not be taken too seriously. There is always time for a little jokeJ
Eat the best food you can afford.
Wear sun block, you only have one skin.
Good friends, good food, good wine fixes many a problem.
You reap what you sow.
Make fun of yourself.
What is on your list?